I like to think of the tarot deck as a critical friend; someone who offers information for us to consider, plays devils advocate and suggests new ways of approaching a situation. We often don’t want to hear what the tarot says, but we always need to hear the wisdom it has to offer. After all if we didn’t want another perspective, or a deeper understanding of an event or a situation why would we have consulted the tarot in the first place?
The tarot, like a critical friend, never tells us what to do, or what will happen. It provides guidance, offers suggestions, asks us to consider how we can live fulfilled in the present or the different ways we can achieve our dreams for the future. It can only help though if we ask the right question, a question that frames the situation rather than directs it. For if we subconsciously tell the tarot what we want to hear then the tarot will assume that we know the answer and just reflect that same answer back to us. It may be what we want, but it isn’t what we need.
Below you will find my tips for the types of questions to ask your tarot deck, to get the most from your reading. And if you want to learn how to build a better relationship with your tarot look out for my tarot courses that can be found here.
Ask open questions
These are the questions that open a conversation, and that is what you want to have with your tarot cards. A conversation. Ask questions that start with what, why and how. What can I do to improve my relationship with my family? Why is my love life so bad right now? How can I improve my good fortune? In opening up the question you are opening up your mind to what the tarot has to say.
Avoid asking yes/no questions
The tarot cannot predict the future, unless in the hands of a psychic. You are in control of your own future, can influence it by the choices that you make. The tarot is not going to know what you are going to do tomorrow, the next day, the week after. It can guide you to what you could do or should do but it doesn’t know whether you will do it or not.
The most common questions that I get asked as a Tarot Coach are yes/no questions: Will I get another job? Will I find the love of my life? Will my children start speaking to me again? When asked one of these questions I always ask the person to frame it in a different way, to open up a conversation; How can I find another role? What do I want out of a partner? How can I build a better relationship with my children? and Why do I feel like I do?
Ask for clarity
If your friend told you something, or expressed an opinion, you would want to find out more so why would the tarot be any different? It isn’t. You are in control of the tarot reading so once you have drawn the tarot cards and the tarot has provided you with a general picture ask for further clarity. Asking questions such as; What do you mean? or How could I do that? when drawing further tarot cards will help you understand the reading in more detail, and provide a deeper understanding to what actions you should take.
Some tarot readers will ask if you want a general reading. I never do, I always ask the person who I am reading for to give me a specific question but then I am a tarot coach not a reader and there is a difference. I would suggest that if you are consulting your own cards, unless you are practicing, you should always ask the tarot cards a specific question. The reason for this is that in a general reading the answers that the tarot provides will be very vague, it taps in to your subconsciousness and although you need an open mind to listen and understand what it tells you, the tarot can’t really help you very much if you have an empty mind. You wouldn’t ask a friend what you should do without providing any context so don’t ask the tarot for the impossible.
Don’t ask the same question over and over again
As a critical friend the tarot cards will tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear. The problem is because you don’t want to hear it you often ignore it and ask again another day in the hope that you will get a different answer.
I overheard an interaction between a father and his daughter in the supermarket the other day. The daughter who was about five wanted some chocolate that was in the shopping basket, the father wanted her to wait until she got home. After about five minutes of wrangling the daughter was happily munching on her chocolate bar and I was feeling mildly irritated by the fact that the father had given in, whilst deep down knowing that if it had been me, I would have probably caved after the first minute.
If you ask the tarot the same question over and over again, you will eventually get the answer that you want, because tapping in to your subconsciousness the tarot knows that is all you are going to accept. It won’t help you and you are probably harming your chances of doing what you need to do but sometimes the old saying “you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink” applies to every one of us. Even you and me.
I always work with the Rider Waite tarot deck in my tarot readings, although I love to build relationships with lots of different decks on a personal basis. To buy a tarot deck click here
The tarot has been used through the ages as guidance for those who seek meaning to their life, answers to their questions and help with their decisions. The detailed symbolism on each of the 78 tarot cards, provides the querent who can interpret the tarot with advice, support and enlightenment for many of the questions that they face in life. Whilst the tarot cannot predict what will happen, unless in the hands of a psychic who can use the tarot cards as a tool to help them see in to the future, the cards do provide all who ask with an insight in to what is happening at the moment. This allows for greater clarity and a deeper understanding of situations and events so that successful ways forward can be found to many of life’s problems.
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